[tangent] Emily says, "and then there's also this thing where I feel my gifts need to communicate several things: like, you should give each person something useful and something fun and something they asked for and something they wouldn't have thought to ask for and something that shows respect for their particular skills or vocation and something that reinforces your personal connection to them"
[tangent] zarf says, "one year, before I gave up on gifts, I got each of my friends a plastic avocado."